Super Freakin Duper Ladies

It is not an easy job to be a mother. Sometimes, I feel like I am doing a fantastic job and other times I feel like a complete failure. With three kids, two dogs and a husband who works 60+ hours a week (not including the times he has to go out of town for work or when he is doing gigs with his other band Herb n Life) I feel so completely overwhelmed at times. There is always something that I "need" to be doing; laundry, dishes, home-schooling my 2nd grader, grocery shopping, diaper changing and did I mention laundry? If I ever catch up on laundry it will truly be a miracle. I mostly get the things done that I need to, but damnit if I don't miss out on a shower or two. I have come to accept the fact that being a mother means never putting yourself first and I am ok with that...most of the time.

Sometimes, I just need a little bit of uninterrupted ME time. Every mother needs this... and now that I think about it, isn't Mother's day coming up? I think I know what I will ask for. 

To be honest, I actually have it quite a lot easier than a lot of moms out there. Single mothers, I'm talking to you. There is a special place in heaven for you ladies, I'm certain of it. When my husband has to go out of town for work, I am left on my own with the three kids. He is usually only gone for about 3-4 days, but the longest he has been gone is closer to two weeks... and what an exhausting two weeks that was! So, I CAN imagine how hard it is for a single mother, but I CAN'T imagine how to deal with it. 

Sometimes, I may come across like I am boasting about all that I am able to accomplish as a mother and a singer in a band, but I don't mean to. I guess, the fact that I am still trying so hard to achieve my hard-to-reach dreams while balancing a family life sometimes makes me a little bit proud of myself. My band is really the only other thing I have besides my family. The start of my family, led me down a road that forced me to put school and a career on the back burner and I'm ok with that. Ok, I'm not going to lie, there are times when I imagine myself as a business woman with a high fashion power suit taking clients out to lunch and ordering male secretaries to "hold all my calls" while I sip scotch Don Draper style in my office. However, that's not the life I lead, so I think it's important to be proud and happy with the one I do lead, even if that means "bragging" sometimes about what I've got going on. Single mothers, you should do the same.

Taking care of your children and going to school or working ridiculous hours in order to provide for your family, all the while putting yourself on the "back burner", is an incredible feat that only a small percentage of the population would be able to handle. Being a mother, has got to be the most intense, grueling, back-breaking and un-selfish job anyone could ever have... and you don't get state mandated 15 minute breaks and 30 minute lunch breaks while doing it. Sure, there are deadbeat single mothers out there who neglect their kids and party all the time. However, the single mothers I know, are the most caring, hard-working and respectable women I've ever known. I tip my hat to you ladies. 

I promise if I ever make it big with Catfish Mustache or strike it rich with the lottery, I will take care of all of you. I will start some kind of foundation or something that will provide clothes sharing and babysitting services. Hmmm... I think I might be on to something with that. I may even be able to start something like that without a lot of money, but I have to finish my laundry first.